Abstract for: Passive aggressiveness: the story of unfulfilled love and suppressed anger
Emotional abuse is very common both in families and in work environment everywhere around the globe. Passive aggressive behavior is toxic and is among the most severe emotional abuse forms. It has many faces and impressive arsenal of manipulation tools. Passive aggression is invisible and the visible part of it is usually misinterpreted by the observers and victims. The reason lies deeply in the structure of the system that is rooted in the childhood. Deeply hidden shame for not being ideal and perfect makes these people practice hidden dominance. The endless circle that is driven by the hope to receive unconditional love and recreate familiar experience from their childhood. Suppressed anger driven by the shame and low self-esteem meets with the low self-esteem determined by the guilt. The model was designed to help those who are trapped in a cycle of passive aggression. As the simulation shows, there is no easy way out. The way out is long and painful but it is worth to take it, and let the self-competence and ability to self-regulate be the beacon for those who decide to take this long and exhausting way to find self and better life.